Friday, December 28, 2012

Weaning- As Much of a Journey as Breastfeeding



Not easy, but worth it
photo credit: Piccsy

     When I decided to breastfeed, I made it my own personal goal to make it to a year. In the beginning it was really hard, but once I passed the initial stages (every hour feedings and scabby nips) I really felt as though breastfeeding was way easier than bottle feeding. It became almost my lazy way out of Mothering. No bottles, no prep, no hauling stuff, no formula to purchase, and really not much planning. Other than the physical and emotional commitment of constantly nursing and being connected to your baby it was a breeze. It was when I started to consider how to STOP breastfeeding that this whole thing became a little less "blessing" and a little more "curse."

        First of all, no one prepared me for this. Maybe it is my slightly type A personality, but I like to know it when a challenge is headed my way. Having a c-section...ok.....scabby nipples....ok.....sleepless nights....ok. I was prepared for all of these things. Having a kid who only wants boob at a year and throws cows milk back in your face? Not something I ever thought would be a problem.

    So there I was, smacked in the face with the fact that my kid only wanted the boob. I was not only unprepared but I was anxious. You know that pit in your stomach and that feeling that makes you nervously wring your hands and lay awake at night? Yeah, I felt like that....for a while. I mean what if he cried for days while i tried to wean?  What if he needed to continue breastfeeding to feel safe and connected to me?  What if he would never drink cow's milk? So what I did what every probably every Mom does when she is nervous about her child's health and development...I googled the problem. I googled and googled and  found that the majority of all websites about weaning tend to stress why you might NOT want to wean. This just wasn't very helpful to me. I needed help and answers to my questions.

     When I went to the pediatrician for my one year visit I explained my concerns, "He wont take a bottle, he refuses cow's milk, how am I supposed to do this?!?" My lovely pediatrician calmed my fears with her explanation.  She said that it often takes time for them to learn to drink cows milk and suggested that it would take patience and perserverance. She suggested I forgo bottles altogether and start with a sippy cup of some sort. She eased my fears by explaining even if he always refused to drink enough milk that we could ensure that he was receiving enough calcium and vitamin D through his diet. We could even give him a vitamin supplement if need be. She stated that I shouldn't hold up weaning (if I was ready) despite the fact that my son had not yet established good milk drinking habits. Hearing all of these things gave me the confidence boost and permission I needed to continue.

   Armed with good advice (and a little more sanity) I went home and began the weaning process anew. I decided that I would feed Weston 3 meals a day in his highchair with 2 snacks in between to try to stave off any hunger and distract him from what he was missing. Then I did something that some mothers may view as poor parenting. I mixed half a packet of Splenda into his whole milk. That's right people, I gave my one year old artificial sweetener, go ahead and judge. This was not doctor recommended and I did not read to try this anywhere. Necessity is the mother of invention. It was out of necessity that I invented, and it worked!  He started to drink his sweetened cows milk and over the next week I put progressively less Splenda in his milk until he was drinking plain cows milk from a sippy cup. Hooray for little victories!

   We also started new routines. Instead of breastfeeding in the rocking chair prior to naps we now sing two songs or read a board book while we rock. This new routine allows us sweet quiet time and lots of cuddles, but the singing and reading has taken the place of the feeding.


   So, you may wonder where are we now at 13 months old? Weston drinks plain whole milk from a sippy cup (after trying about 10 cups we found one with a straw he drinks well from) throughout the day. We have officially transitioned from breast milk being the mainstay of his diet to food being the major source of nutrition with milk being a compliment. We have weaned all the daytime feedings. The two that remain are upon waking up and when I put him to sleep. I am struggling a bit with letting these last two feedings go. While I never imagined that I would breastfeed my child past one it has still been hard to let go. These two last feeds allow me quiet, calm, non-moving, sweet times with my active boy. Letting these last feedings go will indeed be letting go the last of his babyhood but I am both happy and sad that the time is coming soon.

   I would love it if you would share with me. Did you breastfeed? What was your weaning journey? Was weaning for you a natural progressive thing or did you struggle a bit as well?



 

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

The Survival Guide For Rookie Moms - A Review

    Call it hormones, call it lack of sleep, call it way too much baby on the brain but sometimes as a new Mom you just don't know what to do in certain situations. When Weston was born and we were having trouble with his eating and sleeping I did what many educated new moms would do....I sought out a book to read for advice. The trick here is you have to find the right book. One that's not too boring, not too filled with medical jargon, and that fits somewhat with your ideals of child rearing. In my case I am not sure that I ever did find a book that fit exactly with what I needed but I wish I had found The Survival Guide for Rookie Moms. 



  Lisa Rankin MD, OB/GYN said it best when she was quoted as saying "...reads like a girlfriends guide, but serves up the wisdom of a medical manual. This book is somewhere a cross between What to Expect when your Expecting and Jenny McCarthy's Belly Laughs. It hits all the necessary points but with a little fun and light heartedness thrown in there too.



  One of my favorite parts of this book is that there are special highlighted boxes that supply you with quick tips from the trenches and survival secrets. It is great that these points are easy to find for the frazzled new Mama.

  Now, you may not agree with everything in this book. Certainly to each his own on topics such as Ferber-izing and nipple confusion, however, The Survival Guide for Rookie Moms is a fabulous place to start as a new Mother! You can find this book at a variety of locations as well as amazon.com

If you are interested in the Survival Guide For Rookie Moms you can connect with them on Twitter and Facebook. Come back on January 15th for a chance to win your own copy in the Snug as a Bug giveaway hop!

Even Weston wants in on the fun!


Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Silence and Support For Sandy Hook

Myself as well as the rest of the world are obviously deeply saddened by this weeks events. I have been trying to keep the TV off and focus on the important things in life as much as possible.  I was hoping there would be some small way that I could help or make a statement using my blog and I was happy I came across the below post. 

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To the Blog World and Anyone Else who Wants to Help,

Yesterday, tragedy struck so many of us in ways we did not foresee. An elementary school and small town in Connecticut was shattered by a mass shooting. We knew we wanted to help and we came up with this:


On Tuesday, December 18th, there will be a blogger day of silence. 
We will post the button and that's it. Please try to not post anything else that day if possible.

We are also raising money that will go to an organization in the memory of this tragedy. The organization is called The Newtown Family Youth and Family Services. Here is the official description of the support service we are donating to: 

"Newtown Youth and Family Services, Inc. is a licensed, non-profit, mental health clinic and youth services bureau dedicated to helping children and families achieve their highest potential. NYFS provides programs, services, activities, counseling, support groups and education throughout the Greater Newtown area.

ANY DONATIONS MADE TO NEWTOWN YOUTH AND FAMILY SERVICES WILL BE DONATED DIRECTLY TO THOSE EFFECTED BY THE SANDY HOOK ELEMENTARY SCHOOL SHOOTING."


Please visit THIS PAGE to make your donation.

We can't imagine how they must be feeling, especially this close to the holidays. We would love for you to spread the word on your own blog, Facebook, Twitter, etc. Let's make a difference and use blogging in a positive way. Thank you in advance for participating.

Love,
The Blog World 

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Friday, December 14, 2012

Gift Guide (Part One) - The Trendy Moustache Lover


With only about a week left before Christmas I will be posting a few quirky gift guides. These gifts are for those that don't fit neatly into the usual gifting categories of traveler, foodie, golfer, gardener, and barbecue extraordinaire. Hope you enjoy!

Gift Guide for The Trendy Moustache Lover


Thursday, December 13, 2012

Life Clothing Co.

        

   After my nostalgic one year old post touting that gender of the child doesn't matter I will add one more thing: gender does matter when your talking about clothes. Oh, how I yearn to buy pink and red and bows, Bows, BOWS, galore! If my child had been a girl she would be practically swimming in bows (yes I really like bows...especially when tied at the waist) everyday. Best thing that ever happened to our bank accounts was having a boy. I do however, find great satisfaction in polo shirts, plaid shorts, little brown shoes, and a quirky, trendy, little t-shirt here and there. Enter Life Clothing Co., fun, funky, retro shirts for everyone in your life including that special little one.




      Life Clothing Company sent Weston a toddler sized t-shirt and a onesie to try out. I thought both the Mr. Owl and the Tootsie Roll themes were quirky and fun. Weston is a pretty funny little dude and with the size of his personality he can definitely pull off these little shirts. Who wouldn't smile at my little guy in his, "Let's Roll" onesie? I certainly wouldn't be able to resist (but I am admittedly bias).

                     



  I also really love the cheesiness and absolutely adorable pictures that would come with having matching Father/Son shirts. How cute would a little boy and his Dad be in matching Rocky shirts???

Toy Rocky Toy Rocky

If your into fun and funky tee's for your little one enter the rafflecopter below for a shot at winning two items of your choice (in infant or toddler size). Goodluck!!


UPDATE: The giveaway has ended. Congrats to the winner,
Jhey L. 

Disclosure: I received a product or product(s) to review for free. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission guidelines. 




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