Foreword: This post has a big ole weirdo alert on the top of it. As in, "I hope you don't think I am super weird after you read it."I have always admired people that are socially poised, engage in conversation easily, and make you feel as though what you have going on in your life is fascinating. While I often find it easy converse with those leading similar lives to my own (e.g. Mommy friends), I sometimes have to push myself to think outside of the box with people who are at a different stage in life. When I was getting married, I saw weddings everywhere. Weddings were on TV, in magazines, in the books I was reading, and it seemed at virtually every corner. When I had a baby, suddenly all I saw were pregnant people and children. I naturally relate to what I am going through, but the life and interests of a Mom with say a 5 year old is something I have to push myself to connect with. It's learning how to engage those in different situations that builds new connections, broadens one's horizons, and helps to maintain lasting relationships.
Evan and I often talk about what makes people special, how to connect with people, and the appropriate social graces. I don't mean to make it as though our conversations and interactions are premeditated or planned. We certainly aren't like Dexter ( you know, from Showtime?) and we don't have Aspergers Syndrome. Instead I want you to understand that these things do not always come naturally.
I'm sure as your reading this you are thinking of those in your life that have that special spark, finesse, ability to relate, and wonderful social suaveness. If you're like me, and are chasing the chance to "bring more to the table" in your relationships, you should read this article I literally stumbled upon using Stumble upon: 21 Keys to Magnetic Likeability.
This post might be a rambler but the above linked article is sure to improve your relationships with others.