Tuesday, December 11, 2012

What Do You Bring to The Table?

    Foreword: This post has a big ole weirdo alert on the top of it. As in, "I hope you don't think I am super weird after you read it."


     Evan and I often talk about what makes people special, how to connect with people, and the appropriate social graces. I don't mean to make it as though our conversations and interactions are premeditated or planned. We certainly aren't like Dexter ( you know, from Showtime?) and we don't have Aspergers Syndrome. Instead I want you to understand that these things do not always come naturally.

    I have always admired people that are socially poised, engage in conversation easily, and make you feel as though what you have going on in your life is fascinating. While I often find it easy converse with those leading similar lives to my own (e.g. Mommy friends), I sometimes have to push myself to think outside of the box with people who are at a different stage in life. When I was getting married, I saw weddings everywhere. Weddings were on TV, in magazines, in the books I was reading, and it seemed at virtually every corner. When I had a baby, suddenly all I saw were pregnant people and children. I naturally relate to what I am going through, but the life and interests of a Mom with say a 5 year old is something I have to push myself to connect with.  It's learning how to engage those in different situations that builds new connections, broadens one's horizons, and helps to maintain lasting relationships.

   I'm sure as your reading this you are thinking of those in your life that have that special spark, finesse, ability to relate, and wonderful social suaveness.  If you're like me, and are chasing the chance to "bring more to the table" in your relationships, you should read this article I literally stumbled upon using Stumble upon:  21 Keys to Magnetic Likeability.

  This post might be a rambler but the above linked article is sure to improve your relationships with others.
Happy Tuesday. 

 

10 comments:

  1. I don't think you are super weirdo at all Karen. I think we all tend to gravitate to like-minded people. For instance, I'm now a Mom to 13 yr. & 9 yr. old daughters, so talking to a Mom with a newborn has me "checking" comments I want to make to ensure I am not giving advise that isn't wanted.
    I'm a chatty, happy person so I can talk with pretty much anybody, BUT I confess to finding it trickier to start conversations sometimes.
    I haven't read the book, but in this ever changing world, I'm sure it couldn't hurt!
    Thanks so much for stepping out and sharing your thoughts.

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  2. Thanks so much Linda for taking the time to read my post and for not thinking I am a weirdo ahah. It wasn't an easy one to write but I feel like it is something that maybe a lot of people work at on a daily basis. Have a great week!

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  3. JaShawndra RobinsonDecember 11, 2012 at 3:54 PM

    I agree with Linda; It sounds like you enjoy those who not only enjoy your conversation but are comfortable with their own social interactions as well. Some people aren't good with socializing because they simply don't know how. Also, you're not a weirdo lol. Thanks for sharing :)

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  4. I relate to what you are saying here. I do tend to gravitate to those people that are in the same path in life. When I have to engage in conversations with my husband's co-workers, I really struggle.

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  5. I'm a natural social butterfly so interacting with different people isn't hard for me, but I definitely get what you're saying. When we bought our volvo wagon, all of a sudden I started seeing them everywhere. It's a great book to share...with everyone texting rather than calling, and spending so much time on the web...I sometimes feel we're headed to a more anti-social or socially awkward society. This is the kind of book every high school student should read.

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  6. I need to read this book. I've been trying to get outside my comfort zone. I need to meet new people, people that are like me, have kids. But, I'd rather just be around family most of the time.

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  7. Totally understand how you feel. The article that I linked to is 21 Keys to Magnetic Likeability is really awesome. Lots of easy tips that you might not think of but make you go, "OF COURSE!" Also, I dont know if you have ever heard of meet-up.com but they often have lots of moms groups which is a great way to meet people in your situation. Goodluck and thanks for your comments

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  8. I agree. I think the article is great for ANYONE to read that wants to increase their "likeability." Thanks for commenting Dani!

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  9. Thank you foe this post. Sounds like something I need to read,

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  10. Thanks for sharing! I'm sure I could definitely benefit from reading that article!

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